Is My Relationship Unhealthy?
Signs of Unhealthy Relationships - Things to Think About
It is often very difficult to realize the signs of a potentially unhealthy relationship until you have a lot invested in the partnership. But it is important to understand yourself and what works or does not work for you. If you choose to be in a relationship, you deserve for it to be supportive and for it to feel good.
Some things to ask yourself when determining whether or not your relationship is good for you:
Do you or your partner...
- Use guilt or jealousy to influence what the other person does or who they see?
- Put the other person down or make them feel bad about themselves?
- Threaten to out the other's gender identity, sexual orientation, or immigration status to family or friends?
- Control the other's freedom (who they spend time with, where they go, what they wear)
- Pressure the other person to do something sexual they don't want to do?
How are things feeling?
Does my partner(s):
- Support me and my choices?
- Support me in spending time with my friends and family and doing the things I like to do outside of our relationship?
- Feel comfortable talking about my feelings, sex, and other important things?
- Support my partner's independence and identity?
Is your relationship affecting your health?
- Do you often feel depressed, anxious, or stressed? Is your relationship making it worse?
- Are you drinking, smoking, or using drugs in order to cope with what is going on in your relationship(s)?
- Have you noticed a change in your appetite, weight, or sleeping habits?
- Do you have health issues that can be worsened by chronic stress?
*** Information from Futures Without Violence